When you're not the one actually experiencing tragedy your first heart response might be: "How can I help- What can I do for them?" I've seen with my own eyes the anguish of those on the outside wanting to take the pain away from those who are on the inside of the tragedy.
Here is practical advise spoken from experience:
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Pray. We often think prayer is not enough. Prayer is the most valuable asset you can give. It's like sending rain on parched ground. Their spirits will soak it up and become stronger just because you cared enough to speak life through prayer.
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Love on the person/family going through the hardship. Don't assume that everyone else is. DO your part. However, this does not mean you have to be there at every moment- space is necessary. A simple text, facebook response, email, etc. will let your love be known.
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Send meals, gifts and money. It might sound trivial but it does mean a lot. When you go through tragedy, your world feels shaken. Time is spent off of work and money helps aid that need. Gifts are also important. Especially one personalized or engraved. It matters because it's a keepsake for many, many years to come. Even a decade later I get some of my gifts out and look at them. It touches the heart and makes you feel loved.
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Follow up. This is one of the most important yet, I think it's the one most often neglected. Six months down the road phone calls won't be blasting in. People won't be bombarding scriptures. Not as many questions will be asked. In fact, from my experience, the person dealing with the tragedy feels somewhat like the plague. When you walk in a room all eyes go to you and then away simply because people don't want to make you feel awkward. Natural response from people on the outside is to stay quiet because they believe you may not want to talk. While this may be true for some, most people experiencing trauma do want to talk. If they don't.... they will tell you. With that being said: months down the road,
call, write, hug, ask, cook dinners still, encourage, love, make them feel all is not forgotten. It might be over for you, but it certainly won't be over for them for a long time. No matter how strong they seem it will never hurt to speak words of life.
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